Hey guys, so this is my first blog post EVER, so hope it’ll be something of worth to you. During this Spring Break, because I had some spare time, I really wanted to take a step back and evaluate my life, my direction, and my mindset. It’s an exercise that I think that everyone should do every now and then. Ask questions like the following:
How am I feeling?
Where am I heading?
What am I doing?
Who am I as a person?
What can I do to become better?
This self-analysis if done consistently will guarantee you personal growth and hopefully success. Nevertheless, thanks to my good friend David Cary, we began a deep, philosophical conversation about life, which eventually ended upon the topic of FEAR and DEATH.
I hadn’t seen David in a good half a year, and this was what we were talking about? Yes we’re weird haha.
Regardless, our conversation led to a revelation that motivated me to even start writing this blog entry. David told me that according to his readings by the philosopher Montaigne, “to philosophize is to learn how to die,” and immediately I was awed by the meaning of that phrase. In order to think about life, we must ACCEPT death, as morbid as it sounds. When I thought about it more, all of our fears stem from the foundational fear of death.
Death is a touchy, painful subject. We mourn at funerals not only because we love the person that passed away, but also because we are reminded of our own mortality. We believe that life is the absence of death, so as long as we can stay alive, we’ll be fine.
However, there’s another way of looking at it. From the great motivational speaker Jim Rohn, “life is the struggle to keep death at a reasonable distance.” Death makes life beautiful because we know that everything is ephemeral. We take things for granted until we lose them, so if we never lost anything, we would take everything for granted. Death is the single truth of life, so why run away from it?
As blunt as it is, we must accept the fact and resolve it within ourselves if you want to live life fully, for once we reconcile that fact with ourselves we are truly powerful.
If we do not fear death, what else in life to fear is there? What really hit me about me and David’s conversation was the part about fear. I finally realized how much FEAR has dictated my life and where I am today. Think about how your fears have influenced your life decisions?
I was always afraid to fully express myself for fear of being judged.
I was afraid of leadership because of the fear of responsibility.
I was a “nice guy” because of my fear of offending people.
I never sought out a girlfriend because of the fear of getting emotionally hurt.
There’s an acronym for FEAR that says, “False Evidence Appearing Real.” Our fears are only our perceptions of what we think things will be like. Things scare us when we are not sure of the outcomes. But fears are what inhibit our potential. If we don’t face our fears, we won’t know the “Truth” (whatever that may be).
According to the leadership guru John C. Maxwell, “to go up, you must give up.” In other words, in order to grow and improve in life, we must be willing to pay the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual price. While the journey is tolling, the results will be worth it.
How many times have your fears prevented you from achieving your own goals and from grasping your dreams. Too many times have I wimped out and given the excuse of “I don’t need to do this” when I truthfully knew that I did need to. Let’s first recognize that we do have fears, and then see what we can do to overcome them.
For example, today I walked right into a Ferrari dealership in La Jolla, and sat in a car that many would feel would be impossible to attain. I walked out of the shop and told the employee, “give me three years and I’ll be back to buy this.” If we can’t even imagine ourselves achieving our goals, how will we ever attain them?
This is meant to be a call to action. We must all become BOLD to truly LIVE. Don’t let our perceptions of our fears prevent us from what we all want from life. Dream as big as you want. Love as much as you can.
We will all die one day soon, so let’s stop running away from ourselves and face up to life and be brave to achieve your dreams.
Thank you if you read through all of this. I hope that my revelation added some value to your day.